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Guide to S&M Domination
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WHIPS & FLAGELLATION

You should choose your whipping paraphernalia with care. Each item affects the skin differently. Flogging, which manifested as Whipping, Caning or Spanking, is one of my personal favourites. I thoroughly enjoy a good hard over the knee spanking. Of all flogging equipment this is the easiest to use. It is so basic. Almost everyone has endured a spanking at one time or another. It is an excellent way to break in the uninitiated, as there are no threatening tools to use.

WHIPPING

The Martinet - This was the only whip to be designed exclusively for the punishment of juveniles. It is of French design, and is for use on the bare bottoms. It closely resembles a cat'o'nine tails. Martinets are not true whips and are usually made of strips of leather (usually 6) and the tails and handle should be of equal length.

Rubber Whips- You should be careful using these as they can cut if used roughly. Proceed with care, they can produce cuts, and cuts equal blood = DANGER. Take care both in use and in cleaning after wards.

Horse-Whips- My favourites are the short riding crops. Tack stores are a good outlet, but choose the material carefully. The harder the material the more damage you will do. The bull whip is the ultimate flogging tool, but it does not take long to make mincemeat out of a bare back. When buying these items take care to avoid whips with knots at the end, or hard leather.

SOME HISTORY

Whipping - The lash has been used since before the Middle Ages. In the ancient days, whips and scourges were often used to flay the wrong - doer open, eventually resulting in sepsis, loss of blood, and death. Whips were later developed to punish a person severely. Not until 1948 was judicial flogging abolished in Britain. The English Vice (Ian Gibson, Gerald Duckworth & Co., London) is a wonderful book for those wanting more information.

Judicial flogging was used to castigate sex offenders, especially 'flashers'. Punishment was often with a cat o nine tails. The suggestion that flogging and especially birching might arouse sexual interests in either the punished or the executioner put flogging off of the punishment books for good.

Techniques - Have the submissive fully secured for a whipping scene. There are times when no bonds are necessary such as spanking scenes (mother/son) or caning scenes (teacher/pupil). Blows to the kidney may cause bruising or permanent injury and MUST BE AVOIDED. Joints are another area to avoid, this could cause ligament or joint problems. Despite warnings on this you may elect to produce sensations on the backs of knees, elbows etc.

Never hit the back of the neck, as such blows could cause spinal damage. The head is off limits also - we know as children that a light blow to the temples could cause immediate death, however face slapping is OK.

The scrotal sac is a popular place to strike. All men fear loss of their manhood, and strikes to this area produce psychological fear in addition to pain. Should you wish to bring pain to this area, use a ball stretcher, and weights. Never strike the penis hard or with a solid instrument. Instead use leather or another soft item for penis torture.

SPANKING

Spanking is something that can be done in public or private. A severe spanking is considered a childish correction, and therefore shaming. It is suitable for all age groups.

Usually the punishing device is the governesses open palm, and for this I like to administer brisk, spankings. The next spank arrives before my culprit has time to absorb it, and this helps to promote a rapid loss of self-control and so the weeping state that usually signals the end of the punishment.

After a few strokes you should be able to see the reddening of the skin, where your blows have been landing. I usually punish one buttock then the other, then two cheeks together, then a low blow, then a high blow, and finally a thigh. (However, I mix these up so that my culprit cannot anticipate it.)

The 5 recognized postures for spanking are:-

  • across my knees,
  • between my thighs,
  • across a single elevated thigh, tucked under the arm,
  • between the legs, or
  • held down by the collar across an appropriate item of furniture.

If I'm putting the culprit across my lap, I take him by the ear or the hair and march him to the place where I intend to sit. I unbutton his rousers, and push him firmly so that he lies down across my lat. His bottom is positioned directly over my right thigh, and his arms are held forward out of the way, or I tell him to grip a hold of the chair.

If I'm putting him between my thighs, then I mount my foot on a chair seat, bid him to approach, and when he arrives I force him to bend forward across my thigh. I then wrap my right thigh around his legs to hold him. Normally to do this, I have to lift my gown to knee-level in order to accomplish this, and it adds sharply to the atmosphere.

When baring a submissive's bottom, I like to humiliate him by having him lower his trousers, to his knees, once there I re-fasten them, then I lift the shirt tail up and tuck it under the rear of his jacket, then very slowly, I get to his knickers. I slowly draw them down, and position them around mid-thigh.

One other thing about spanking is that this is the one mode of physical correction, that is the most intimate. More flesh is in contact, and it's very much associated with mother and child. And of course every mother loves their children.

Traditional items such as a leather or wooden slipper, are always more severe than with the hand. The impact of a well-handled slipper is impressive. A school ruler, or the flat wooden back of a hairbrush are all items that I use to punish naughty naked buttocks. Please note that hairbrushes are more apt to bruise more easily than any other item, and two dozen is the most I'd ever lay on with the back of a hairbrush.

Tawses and paddles are really much more suitable for the severer kinds of spanking and though it is usually done otherwise, they may also be administered in the classic posture. The Taws have a long and distinguished history, are made from various materials and are 'smacking' instruments. I've used the taws on hands, clothed bottoms, bared bottoms, and if after being smacked on the bared bottom and your culprit isn't in any distress, then you have been much to mild. A tapette or paddle as they are known in the United States, is one of the severest instruments used for smacking. A ping pong paddle works just as well also. The sound of the paddle's impact is the most tremendous 'whack', and it normally leaves no bruises when used correctly.

Although the cane and the birch were famous instruments for corporal punishment in English public schools, (I know better than most people, as I went to one, perhaps that is why I am now a Top), and reform schools the paddle is still a favourite. Other materials that are used, are leather paddles, sometimes with fur on one side, or studs, wooden paddles (fraternity) different shapes, and sizes.

Birching - The birch was used prior to the cane. It consisted of many switches all bundled together. A switch is a single tree branch cut to 3 foot lengths, and fairly thin. Usually twigs, leaves etc., are broken off, I usually peel the switch - this gives it more of a snap (I learned this from my Grandfather who used to like to lay the switch on my siblings).

The birch-rod is for serious offences only. It must be a very grave situation for me to take the trouble to administer a proper birching. It gives a combination smacking and lashing. After the punishment has been administered, and as soon as the culprit is able to speak , I order him to get off my knees and make the final act of contrition - Kissing the rod.

Caning - This is a sport. At my school caning was primarily given to the hands rather than on your arse. After a caning the student was forced to say "Thank you Sir, May I have another?" after each stroke. The cane can leave nasty marks that linger. In Canada and England players primarily focus on caning, and there are caning-like dungeon parties.

The cane is a highly penetrating item, and care must be taken when administering it - so much is obvious. The arm and wrist movement is a complex one, and the achievement of a good caning action is therefore a matter of some diligence and constant practice. Be careful as the cane can cut, and scar, and that is simple brutality.

For a hand-caning scene, I like to take the cane, and command the culprit to stand up and hold out his hand, fingers extended, arm and wrist stiff, at shoulder height. I then take my aim, and strike vertically downwards, with a sharp, swishing action, using the wrist and forearm rather than the shoulder muscles. I aim to strike the palm at a diagonal angle. Usually the culprit will pull his hand away immediately and stick it under his arm. Withdrawing it at the last minute is a serious offence, and immediately relates into the hand-caning being translated into another type of caning.

Another popular stance that I like, is to make the culprit grab his ankles or touch his toes.

After the chastisement the culprit is normally sent back to his table to complete his work, or made to stand in the corner for a few minutes.









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